Parenting from the Head vs Authentic Parenting
I have mixed feelings about parenting scripts you know the type where is says "Don't say this, say this". I use some scripts in my 12 Week Course that people who come to coaching get access to. They can be helpful in modelling peaceful, empowered ways to communicate… but also they can make people feel a bit shit…The same applies to parenting tips, tricks and hacks from books and social media. They can be useful but it can also mean we can get stuck parenting from the head in our analytical brain rather than being present.
Are you parenting from the head or the heart?
There can be this high stakes anxiety that comes around "saying the wrong thing" to your kids or it can feel like you are a parenting robot speaking someone else's words, it can feel inauthentic.
So here's what I'd love to offer you all.
Read the scripts, read the books but give yourself full permission to say the "wrong thing" in your authentic voice often. Occasionally, and at a pace that feels right for you, try out something new.
Our children's lives are not shaped by individual interactions but by the general trend of your parenting.
Most of us are moving mountains and shifting huge paradigms in our parenting; responding with curiosity if you were responded to with smacking, responding with with encouragement if you were responded to with shaming
Authentic parenting is parenting from the full authenticity of who you are for the full authenticity of who your kids are.
Authentic parenting is a journey of brain and body wholeness. Ultimately, parenting is a journey of leadership. Great leaders need wisdom and wisdom takes time. Our kids are growing and so are we.
Hi I’m Emily
I am a Conscious Parenting Coach. I help parents who are stuck in overwhelm to find more peace and flow in family life. Have a look at my 1:1, co-parent and group offerings
5 Ways to Parent from Authenticity
Tune into your values and what really matters
Prioritise connection over all else. From connection everything else in parenting flows.
Get clear on shame and fears that are lurking in the background so you can parent with more ease and openness
Check in on your felt sense of safety in parenting- Does the responsibility of parenting feel safe? Do you trust yourself?
Tune into who your child really is and let go of the narrative you had of who you were hoping they would be.
