How to Help your Child Develop Healthy Beliefs
What your children hear and experience about themselves they will believe. Human beings live according to their beliefs so lets try and make them life enhancing and expansive!
Written by Emily Hughes Conscious Parenting Coach
What do You Want Your Child’s Beliefs to Be?
Beliefs are formed through the following steps:
Here is an example with the belief “I am trustworthy/ I can trust myself”
Stating the belief “You are so trustworthy”
Living and experiencing the belief “my parents are trusting me with this challenge”/ parent giving child challenge they have to problem solve
Repeating the belief Doing the above repeatedly
Having the belief modelled to us Showing to your kids that they can trust you/ that you trust them
Beliefs are naturally formed between ages of 0-7 but new beliefs can be practiced through repetition and experience at any age.
What do you want your kids to believe about themselves?
About the Self:
I am worthy of love and happiness
I belong
I am fundamentally okay
I am strong and capable
I am intelligent and able to learn
I am a good and decent person
I have the power to create positive change in my life
I deserve love
I am fine as I am
I have purpose/ I am useful
I am honorable
I am likeable
I can do hard things
I deserve good things
I am (can be) healthy
I am a strong person
I am intelligent (able to learn).
I am significant (important)
I am okay just the way I am
I deserve to live
I deserve to be happy
I am okay as I am
I try hard
I can learn from my mistakes
I do the best I can
I am trustworthy
I can trust my judgment
I can choose whom to trust
It is important to take care of myself
Emotions are safe
I can make my needs known
I can succeed
I am supported
I can be myself
I can handle it
My body knows just what to do (re sleep/ healing)
I trust my intuition and gut feelings
About Others:
Most people are generally good and kind
Whilst some people are not to be trusted most people can be trusted
Not everyone has to like me
I don’t have to fit in or be like others I can just be me
So long as I am decent and kind I don’t need to be overly responsible for other people
My wellbeing is as important as others
Friends are nice but family is more important
Friends are nice but they are not everything
About the World:
The world is full of opportunity
The future is bright
I have enough time
Life is a journey of growth and learning
About the Ability to Change:
I can change my thoughts and beliefs
I can overcome challenges and obstacles
I can achieve my goals and dreams
I can make mistakes, learn and grow
